Bible Text: Gene\u00adsis 1:27; Luke 15:21\u201324 | Pre\u00ada\u00adcher: Mat\u00adthi\u00adas Alt\u00adwegg | Series: Wel\u00adco\u00adme Home | In the para\u00adble in Luke 15, when the son retur\u00adned home after a long time, his father pre\u00adsen\u00adted him with a sple\u00adndid dress, a fin\u00adger ring and shoes. He also slaugh\u00adte\u00adred the fat\u00adted calf and threw a feast. All this means that the retur\u00adnee was gran\u00adted the iden\u00adti\u00adty of a son. Fathers and mothers also have the task of spea\u00adking iden\u00adti\u00adty to their child\u00adren and this also in their gender.<\/p>\n
\u00ab<\/span>What is to shi\u00adne in the fat\u00adher\u00adland must begin in the home.\u00bb This series of topics looks at the impact of the fami\u00adly on the lives of indi\u00advi\u00addu\u00adals and socie\u00adty. A few weeks ago I pre\u00adsen\u00adted how God as a father deals with his child\u00adren. One point was cal\u00adled: God as Father speaks iden\u00adti\u00adty. Peo\u00adp\u00adle with a healt\u00adhy iden\u00adti\u00adty is what the world needs. Spea\u00adking iden\u00adti\u00adty is the\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre one of the grea\u00adtest tasks in the fami\u00adly and is tan\u00adta\u00admount to giving the child\u00adren a good root system. \tHow would you descri\u00adbe the recep\u00adti\u00adon of the retur\u00adning Son in the Father\u2019s house? What does the father (not) do? Bible Text: Gene\u00adsis 1:27; Luke 15:21\u201324 | Pre\u00ada\u00adcher: Mat\u00adthi\u00adas Alt\u00adwegg | Series: Wel\u00adco\u00adme Home | In the para\u00adble in Luke 15, when the son retur\u00adned home after a long time, his father pre\u00adsen\u00adted him with a sple\u00adndid dress, a fin\u00adger ring and shoes. He also slaugh\u00adte\u00adred the fat\u00adted calf and threw a par\u00adty. All this means\u2026<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","wpfc_preacher":[23],"wpfc_sermon_series":[53],"wpfc_sermon_topics":[],"wpfc_bible_book":[],"wpfc_service_type":[12],"class_list":{"0":"wpfc_preacher-matthias-altwegg","1":"wpfc_sermon_series-willkommen-daheim","2":"wpfc-sermon-single","3":"post-2583","4":"wpfc_sermon","5":"type-wpfc_sermon","6":"status-publish","7":"hentry","10":"wpfc_service_type-gottesdienst"},"acf":[],"sermons_blog_filters_topics":"\t\t\t\t
\nIden\u00adti\u00adty as a person
\nJesus tells a para\u00adble in which the youn\u00adger son makes an inhe\u00adri\u00adtance advan\u00adce and lea\u00adves his bor\u00ading home with the aim of final\u00adly enjoy\u00ading life. After some time, howe\u00adver, he comes back to his father \u00ablike a bea\u00adten dog\u00bb: \u00abHis son said to him, \u00abFather, I have sin\u00adned against hea\u00adven and also against you, and am no lon\u00adger wort\u00adhy to be cal\u00adled your son.\u00bb But his father said to the ser\u00advants, \u00abQuick! Bring the best clo\u00adthes in the house and put them on him. Get a ring for his fin\u00adger and san\u00addals for his feet. And slaugh\u00adter the calf we fat\u00adten\u00aded in the sta\u00adble, for my son here was dead and has come back to life. He was lost, but now he is found.\u00bb And a joyful feast began\u00bb (Luke 15:21\u201324 NL<\/span>).
\nAt this reuni\u00adon, the father does not first talk about the son\u2019s beha\u00adviour, but about his iden\u00adti\u00adty through strong symbols:
\nThe best dress: By pre\u00adsen\u00adting the best dress, the rela\u00adti\u00adonship is res\u00adto\u00adred. \u00abJacob loved Joseph more than his other sons becau\u00adse he had only been born to him in his old age. The\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre one day he had a sple\u00adndid gar\u00adment made for Joseph\u00bb (Gene\u00adsis 37:3 NL<\/span>). The gift of a sple\u00adndid gar\u00adment is an expres\u00adsi\u00adon of the father\u2019s love. It was Joseph\u2019s undo\u00ading becau\u00adse it attrac\u00adted the envy of his brot\u00adhers. That is why they sold him to Egypt. Many years later, he is made vice\u00adroy the\u00adre: \u00abAnd Pha\u00adraoh said to Joseph, \u00abHer\u00adeby I give you aut\u00adho\u00adri\u00adty over all Egypt\u00bb. Then he put his roy\u00adal signet ring on his fin\u00adger. He gave him cos\u00adt\u00adly robes and put a gold chain around his neck\u00bb (Gene\u00adsis 41:41f NL<\/span>). The man who no lon\u00adger felt valuable enough to be cal\u00adled \u00abson\u00bb and wan\u00adted to go home as a day labou\u00adrer is set up as a repre\u00adsen\u00adta\u00adti\u00adve father. The cove\u00adring of the sple\u00adndid gar\u00adment is also an expres\u00adsi\u00adon of for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness and cove\u00adring of shame. In a pro\u00adphe\u00adtic text an angel says: \u00ab \u00abTake off his filt\u00adhy garm\u00adents.\u00bb And to Yes\u00adhua he said, \u00abHer\u00adeby I have taken away your sin, and now let you put on fes\u00adti\u00adve garm\u00adents.\u00bb \u00bb (Zecha\u00adriah 3:4 NL<\/span>). A father for\u00adgi\u00adves and covers shame. It is so important that a father and mother cover weak\u00adne\u00adss in their child\u00adren and not laugh at it. Cyni\u00adcism exposes.
\nA ring for his fin\u00adger: The son who has made a mess of his enti\u00adre inhe\u00adri\u00adtance is rein\u00adsta\u00adted as heir. Wit\u00adhout the good man having to affirm that he will never again enga\u00adge in such shenanig\u00adans, he is again given full trust. He gets back exact\u00adly what he has just fai\u00adled in. Do we also keep giving our child\u00adren new chan\u00adces? From the sto\u00adry of Pha\u00adraoh and Joseph we learn that the ring also has the mea\u00adning of the trans\u00adfer of aut\u00adho\u00adri\u00adty. The son\u2019s aut\u00adho\u00adri\u00adty is restored.
\nSan\u00addals for his feet: Bare\u00adfoot\u00adness means aban\u00addon\u00adment of rights, loss of honour or impri\u00adson\u00adment (2Samuel 15:30). The son recei\u00adves the foot\u00adwear of pres\u00adti\u00adge. His posi\u00adti\u00adon in the fami\u00adly is restored.
\nThe fat\u00adten\u00aded calf: At that time, a fami\u00adly fat\u00adten\u00aded a calf in case unex\u00adpec\u00adted guests of honour appeared. The wicked son is con\u00adside\u00adred the guest of honour. And then the rejoi\u00adcing beg\u00adins. Do our child\u00adren always learn that they are guests of honour?
\nThe son, who would have deser\u00adved a tel\u00adling off, is sim\u00adply gran\u00adted his iden\u00adti\u00adty. The father impres\u00adsi\u00adve\u00adly shows him that his value does not depend on his actions, but on his being. Our child\u00adren need to expe\u00adri\u00adence again and again that they are loved uncon\u00addi\u00adtio\u00adnal\u00adly \u2013 espe\u00adci\u00adal\u00adly when they have fai\u00adled and their beha\u00adviour has been insuf\u00adfi\u00adci\u00adent. When our child\u00adren have to stand their ground in a dif\u00adfi\u00adcult envi\u00adron\u00adment, Sil\u00advia and I always pray the same pray\u00ader: \u00abFather in hea\u00adven, show them who they are befo\u00adre you!\u00bb When child\u00adren don\u2019t know who they are, they beco\u00adme the play\u00adthing of their envi\u00adron\u00adment, they will strugg\u00adle with infe\u00adrio\u00adri\u00adty and, in order to belong, they will have to do things that do not cor\u00adre\u00adspond to their con\u00advic\u00adtions. Tell your child\u00adren over and over again, \u00abYou are our bel\u00adoved daugh\u00adter, we like you!\u00bb \u00abYou are our bel\u00adoved son, I che\u00adrish you!\u00bb This pro\u00advi\u00addes them with a strong root sys\u00adtem for a secu\u00adre stand.
\nTea\u00adchers were told that some stu\u00addents were high\u00adly gifted. Alt\u00adhough this was not true, it was found that this anti\u00adci\u00adpa\u00adted posi\u00adti\u00adve assess\u00adment was con\u00adfirm\u00aded later on. This was made pos\u00adsi\u00adble by the tea\u00adcher con\u00advey\u00ading his expec\u00adta\u00adti\u00adons to the stu\u00addents in subt\u00adle ways, such as per\u00adso\u00adnal atten\u00adti\u00adon, wai\u00adting for a stu\u00addent respon\u00adse, fre\u00adquen\u00adcy and strength of prai\u00adse and repri\u00admand, or a high per\u00adfor\u00admance demand. This is cal\u00adled the Pyg\u00adma\u00adli\u00adon effect. And it plays out in the home too. If we think big about our child\u00adren, grant them the gre\u00adat iden\u00adti\u00adty in Jesus\u00bb name, they will beco\u00adme more and more what they alre\u00ada\u00addy are in our eyes.
\nIden\u00adti\u00adty as a woman or man
\n\u00abThis is how God crea\u00adted human beings in his image, in the image of God he crea\u00adted them, male and fema\u00adle\u00bb (Gene\u00adsis 1:27 NL<\/span>). The\u00adre is male and fema\u00adle. The gene\u00adtic dif\u00adfe\u00adrence bet\u00adween man and woman is 1.5%. That is not much, but if you con\u00adsider that the dif\u00adfe\u00adrence bet\u00adween a man and a mon\u00adkey is also 1.5%, it is still quite a lot. Even though we can\u00adnot say that women are like this or like that, we can still talk about mas\u00adcu\u00adli\u00adni\u00adty and femininity.
\nExten\u00adsi\u00adve stu\u00addies have been done on this dif\u00adfe\u00adrence in 53 count\u00adries. If you take the phy\u00adsi\u00adcal cha\u00adrac\u00adte\u00adristic of height, for exam\u00adp\u00adle, you find that women are on avera\u00adge 165 cm long and men 178 cm. Peo\u00adp\u00adle over 191cm are still 5% women, while peo\u00adp\u00adle under 152cm are only 5% men. The over\u00adlap of the two Gauss cur\u00adves is 50%. If you add a second phy\u00adsi\u00adcal cha\u00adrac\u00adte\u00adristic like mus\u00adcle strength, the over\u00adlap beco\u00admes smal\u00adler. This was now done with many phy\u00adsi\u00adcal, men\u00adtal and cogni\u00adti\u00adve traits and lo and behold: clear fema\u00adle and male cha\u00adrac\u00adte\u00adristics emerge:
\nDimen\u00adsi\u00adon of phy\u00adsi\u00adcal\u00adi\u00adty (fem.): The clo\u00adsen\u00adess to life, vul\u00adnerabi\u00adli\u00adty, fer\u00adti\u00adli\u00adty and sen\u00adsi\u00adti\u00advi\u00adty. Fur\u00adther: Sen\u00adse of aes\u00adthe\u00adtics and beau\u00adty, value on outer appearance, more eating dis\u00ador\u00adders, talent for intui\u00adti\u00adon, is more sexu\u00adal\u00adly desi\u00adred, hig\u00adher social adapt\u00ada\u00adti\u00adon \u2013 less self-asser\u00adti\u00adon, psy\u00adchic warmth, etc..
\nDimen\u00adsi\u00adon of phy\u00adsi\u00adcal\u00adi\u00adty (masc.): The strength, aggres\u00adsi\u00adon, robust\u00adness, self-con\u00adfi\u00addence and resis\u00adtance to stress. Fur\u00adther: throw more accu\u00adra\u00adte\u00adly and can assess tra\u00adjec\u00adto\u00adries bet\u00adter, more com\u00adpe\u00adti\u00adti\u00adve, hig\u00adher self-asser\u00adti\u00adon and domi\u00adnan\u00adce \u2013 less social adjus\u00adt\u00adment, more self-con\u00adfi\u00addence \u2013 less preoc\u00adcu\u00adpa\u00adti\u00adon, ten\u00adden\u00adcy to nar\u00adcis\u00adsism, com\u00admu\u00adni\u00adca\u00adte more rough\u00adly and coar\u00adse\u00adly in child\u00adhood, asses\u00adses his abili\u00adties bet\u00adter, etc.
\nFather and mother have dif\u00adfe\u00adrent tasks in paren\u00adting. A mother covers more the basic needs of the child\u00adren such as clo\u00adsen\u00adess and secu\u00adri\u00adty. Fathers have a gre\u00adat respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty in initia\u00adli\u00adsing the gen\u00adder of the child\u00adren. We know today that the gen\u00adder iden\u00adti\u00adty of a child comes from the man: he pro\u00advi\u00addes the decisi\u00adve chro\u00admo\u00adso\u00adme. The con\u00adfir\u00adma\u00adti\u00adon and for\u00adma\u00adti\u00adon of our iden\u00adti\u00adty and sexua\u00adli\u00adty \u2013 for both men and women \u2013 hap\u00adpens pri\u00adma\u00adri\u00adly through the father. This does not mean that the mother plays no role in this pro\u00adcess \u2013 of cour\u00adse she does. But the dra\u00adwing of a child\u2019s iden\u00adti\u00adty into the affir\u00adma\u00adti\u00adon of mas\u00adcu\u00adli\u00adni\u00adty or femin\u00adin\u00adi\u00adty hap\u00adpens through the man. That is how God has set it up. You do that by spea\u00adking into your children\u2019s lives and by con\u00adnec\u00adting emo\u00adtio\u00adnal\u00adly with your child\u00adren, buil\u00adding a rela\u00adti\u00adonship, get\u00adting to know and under\u00adstand their world. This is how cha\u00adrac\u00adter and iden\u00adti\u00adty is built. That is why it is important to invol\u00adve other men in the absence of a father.
\nLet us speak to our child\u00adren about their iden\u00adti\u00adty as men and women. A girl should learn from her father that she is beau\u00adtiful. Why not go clo\u00adthes shop\u00adping with the daugh\u00adter and advi\u00adse her along the way? It is also important that the father not only values logi\u00adcal con\u00adclu\u00adsi\u00adons, but also intui\u00adti\u00adve ones. For boys, com\u00adpe\u00adti\u00adti\u00adon is important. They want to mea\u00adsu\u00adre their strength and find out that they are strong. Recent\u00adly, I went to see the war film \u00abMid\u00adway\u00bb with my son. It was a real boys\u00bb night out. It\u2019s okay for a boy to talk a litt\u00adle roug\u00adher than a girl.
\nDimen\u00adsi\u00adon of Mind (f): Emo\u00adtio\u00adnal intel\u00adli\u00adgence, empa\u00adthy, emo\u00adtio\u00adna\u00adli\u00adty, kind\u00adness and sen\u00adsi\u00adti\u00advi\u00adty. Fur\u00adther: more cont\u00adact-ori\u00aden\u00adted, holds more eye cont\u00adact, smi\u00adles more at coun\u00adter\u00adpart, lan\u00adguage more adapt\u00aded to child, more depres\u00adsi\u00adon and anxie\u00adty dis\u00ador\u00adders, feels com\u00adfor\u00adta\u00adble in two-per\u00adson rela\u00adti\u00adonship, etc.
\nDimen\u00adsi\u00adon of the mind (m): Emo\u00adtio\u00adnal sta\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty. Less empa\u00adthy, hig\u00adher fac\u00adtu\u00adal ori\u00aden\u00adta\u00adti\u00adon, hig\u00adher emo\u00adtio\u00adnal robust\u00adness \u2013 less sen\u00adsi\u00adti\u00adve and touchy, less affec\u00adti\u00adve men\u00adtal dis\u00ador\u00adders, more com\u00adfor\u00adta\u00adble in the pack, etc.
\nIt is important to value the emo\u00adtio\u00adna\u00adli\u00adty of girls and not to descri\u00adbe them as \u00absen\u00adsi\u00adti\u00adve\u00bb or their beha\u00adviour as \u00abtal\u00adka\u00adti\u00adve\u00bb. Boys, on the other hand, are not \u00absta\u00adkes\u00bb if they do not imme\u00addia\u00adte\u00adly per\u00adcei\u00adve every mood and some\u00adti\u00admes move some\u00adwhat clum\u00adsi\u00adly in the social space.
\nIntellect dimen\u00adsi\u00adon (f): Social com\u00adpe\u00adtence, con\u00adfi\u00addence, asso\u00adcia\u00adti\u00adve thin\u00adking, lan\u00adguage ver\u00adsa\u00adti\u00adli\u00adty. Next: Rela\u00adti\u00adonship-ori\u00aden\u00adted Per\u00adson-ori\u00aden\u00adted occu\u00adpa\u00adti\u00adons, more talen\u00adted with lan\u00adguage, bet\u00adter at repea\u00adting the mea\u00adning of a text, start tal\u00adking ear\u00adlier, trus\u00adting \u2013 less sus\u00adpi\u00adcious, less dys\u00adle\u00adxic, more con\u00adsci\u00aden\u00adtious, emo\u00adtio\u00adnal pro\u00adblem-sol\u00adving, empha\u00adsise more often how much interlo\u00adcu\u00adtors mean to them, talk about social issues, etc.
\nDimen\u00adsi\u00adon of the intellect (m): Objec\u00adti\u00advi\u00adty, abili\u00adty to sys\u00adte\u00adma\u00adtise, line\u00adar thin\u00adking, spe\u00adcia\u00adlism, spa\u00adti\u00adal ima\u00adgi\u00adna\u00adti\u00adon, abs\u00adtrac\u00adtion. Fur\u00adther: Inte\u00adrest is fac\u00adtu\u00adal, line\u00adar thin\u00adking and goal-ori\u00aden\u00adted, focu\u00adsed pro\u00adblem sol\u00adving, can bet\u00adter distin\u00adgu\u00adish bet\u00adween the essen\u00adti\u00adal and the unessen\u00adti\u00adal, autism and Arsperger\u2019s syn\u00addro\u00adme are more fre\u00adquent, twice as many speech dis\u00ador\u00adders (stut\u00adte\u00adring), talks more about sys\u00adtems than about rela\u00adti\u00adonships, etc.
\nWhat hap\u00adpens when boys repress their own mas\u00adcu\u00adli\u00adni\u00adty? Repres\u00adsed mas\u00adcu\u00adli\u00adni\u00adty beco\u00admes unob\u00adjec\u00adti\u00adve, moo\u00addy and weak as a flag in the wind. Women go to coun\u00adsel\u00adling cen\u00adtres and say: \u00abHe\u2019s not man\u00adly enough for me. A good man, poli\u00adti\u00adcal\u00adly cor\u00adrect and all that, and I cho\u00adse him to be harm\u00adless. But now he\u2019s too harm\u00adless for me.\u00bb Repres\u00adsed femin\u00adin\u00adi\u00adty beco\u00admes indif\u00adfe\u00adrent, cold and clo\u00adses its\u00adelf off to life. But one can also fall off the hor\u00adse on the other side! When men repress the ali\u00aden gift, i.e. find mas\u00adcu\u00adli\u00adni\u00adty super and femin\u00adin\u00adi\u00adty stu\u00adpid, they beco\u00adme emo\u00adtio\u00adnal\u00adly reck\u00adless, sexu\u00adal\u00adly dis\u00adin\u00adhi\u00adbi\u00adted, vio\u00adlent and ner\u00addy. When women repress the ali\u00aden endow\u00adment, their social com\u00adpe\u00adtence turns into sche\u00adming and assaul\u00adti\u00adve, their empa\u00adthy into emo\u00adtio\u00adnal insta\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty and their sen\u00adse of life wants atten\u00adti\u00adon to a gre\u00adat ext\u00adent, which they try to achie\u00adve through exag\u00adge\u00adra\u00adted behaviour.
\nDear fathers and mothers, con\u00adscious\u00adly deal with the\u00adse dif\u00adfe\u00adren\u00adces so that you can speak to your sons and daugh\u00adters about their iden\u00adti\u00adty as men and women respec\u00adtively. Their dif\u00adfe\u00adrence is good, needs under\u00adstan\u00adding and should be sup\u00adport\u00aded ver\u00adbal\u00adly again and again. Women are dif\u00adfe\u00adrent. Men are too. Thank God! Ever\u00adyo\u00adne bene\u00adfits when men are male and women are fema\u00adle. Eros is the uncon\u00adscious attrac\u00adtion of the sexes and thri\u00adves on dif\u00adfe\u00adrence. Dr Jean Twen\u00adge, a psy\u00adcho\u00adlo\u00adgist, says that among Mil\u00adle\u00adni\u00adals the attrac\u00adtion of the sexes has decreased. They have less desi\u00adre for sex and fewer part\u00adner\u00adships. Ase\u00adxua\u00adli\u00adty is a new phe\u00adno\u00adme\u00adnon of our time. A pity, really!
\nAfter Jesus had sent 72 disci\u00adples out into the vil\u00adla\u00adges in groups of two, they retur\u00adned full of joy: \u00abLord, even the demons obey us when we cast them out in your name!\u00bb(Luke 10:17). They rejoi\u00adced in what they had done, in their achie\u00adve\u00adment for Jesus. Jesus then points them to their iden\u00adti\u00adty: \u00abJesus repli\u00aded: do not rejoice that evil spi\u00adrits obey you, but rejoice that your names are writ\u00adten in hea\u00adven\u00bb (20). Let us rejoice in our posi\u00adti\u00adon as child\u00adren of God and as men or women and not in our actions! This foun\u00adda\u00adti\u00adon is laid in the paren\u00adtal home.
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\nPos\u00adsi\u00adble ques\u00adti\u00adons for the small groups
\nRead Bible text: Luke 15:21\u201324; Luke 10:17\u201320<\/p>\n
\n\tWhat do the\u00adse sym\u00adbols from the para\u00adble mean for our rela\u00adti\u00adonship with God and for our dealings with our own children?
\n\tWhy is our iden\u00adti\u00adty so important for a hap\u00adpy life?
\n\tWhat signi\u00adfi\u00adcan\u00adce do father and mother have for the initia\u00adli\u00adsa\u00adti\u00adon of gen\u00adder in children?
\n\tWhat should be loo\u00adked out for in girls? What should boys pay atten\u00adti\u00adon to?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"