Bible Text: Ephe\u00adsi\u00adans 6:1\u20134 | Pre\u00ada\u00adcher: Mat\u00adthi\u00adas Alt\u00adwegg | Series: Wel\u00adco\u00adme Home | The\u00adre is a huge pro\u00admi\u00adse in the fifth com\u00admandment (\u00abYou shall honour your father and mother.\u00bb). The imple\u00admen\u00adta\u00adti\u00adon of this demand looks dif\u00adfe\u00adrent in every pha\u00adse of life. But it is always about respec\u00adting, hono\u00adu\u00adring and streng\u00adthening the posi\u00adti\u00adon of father and mother. The con\u00addi\u00adti\u00adon for adult child\u00adren is that they have left father and mother. The goal is not inde\u00adpen\u00addence, but hearts tur\u00adned towards each other in freedom.<\/p>\n
\u00ab<\/span>What is to shi\u00adne in the fat\u00adher\u00adland must begin in the home. This sen\u00adtence by Jere\u00admi\u00adas Gott\u00adhelf, which has been used for almost 200 years, has lost none of its expres\u00adsi\u00adve\u00adness at all. A fami\u00adly in which love, accep\u00adtance and mutu\u00adal care are lived has the poten\u00adti\u00adal to chan\u00adge the world. Such a fami\u00adly is a gre\u00adat bles\u00adsing and acts like a litt\u00adle lea\u00adven that gains influence on its who\u00adle envi\u00adron\u00adment. This is exact\u00adly how God\u2019s king\u00addom works; from the small to the big, from the insi\u00adde to the out\u00adside! It is incon\u00adspi\u00adcuous\u00adly small at the begin\u00adning, but will spread more and more. That is what we call hea\u00adven on earth! \tIt will go well with you. The Greek expres\u00adsi\u00adon eu gino\u00admai (to beco\u00adme well) brings the omen eu (good) into your life. Ever\u00ady\u00adthing will be fine! Hono\u00adu\u00adring the par\u00adents mul\u00adti\u00adpli\u00ades life! It gives life a new dimen\u00adsi\u00adon and a deep satis\u00adfac\u00adtion. It is hea\u00adven on earth! \tWhe\u00adre do you obser\u00adve that the pro\u00admi\u00adses that lie on the fifth com\u00admandment actual\u00adly come true? Prac\u00adti\u00adcal tip: Until the next time, honour your mother and father in a very con\u00adcre\u00adte way!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Bible Text: Ephe\u00adsi\u00adans 6:1\u20134 | Pre\u00ada\u00adcher: Mat\u00adthi\u00adas Alt\u00adwegg | Series: Wel\u00adco\u00adme Home | The\u00adre is a huge pro\u00admi\u00adse in the fifth com\u00admandment (\u00abYou shall honour your father and mother.\u00bb). The imple\u00admen\u00adta\u00adti\u00adon of this demand looks dif\u00adfe\u00adrent in every pha\u00adse of life. But it is always about respec\u00adting, hono\u00adu\u00adring and streng\u00adthening the posi\u00adti\u00adon of father and mother.\u2026<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","wpfc_preacher":[23],"wpfc_sermon_series":[53],"wpfc_sermon_topics":[],"wpfc_bible_book":[],"wpfc_service_type":[12],"class_list":{"0":"wpfc_preacher-matthias-altwegg","1":"wpfc_sermon_series-willkommen-daheim","2":"wpfc-sermon-single","3":"post-2553","4":"wpfc_sermon","5":"type-wpfc_sermon","6":"status-publish","7":"hentry","10":"wpfc_service_type-gottesdienst"},"acf":[],"sermons_blog_filters_topics":"\t\t\t\t
\nA very important basis for the tog\u00ade\u00adther\u00adness of gene\u00adra\u00adti\u00adons in the fami\u00adly is the fifth com\u00admandment, which Paul pulls through the mouths of the Ephe\u00adsi\u00adans like bacon: \u00ab \u00abHonour your father and your mother\u00bb \u2013 that is the first com\u00admandment, which is con\u00adnec\u00adted with a pro\u00admi\u00adse, with the pro\u00admi\u00adse: \u00abThen it will go well with you, and you will live long on this earth\u00bb \u00bb. (Ephe\u00adsi\u00adans 6:2f NG\u00dc<\/span>). Hono\u00adu\u00adring father and mother has an extra\u00ador\u00addi\u00adna\u00adri\u00adly posi\u00adti\u00adve effect:<\/p>\n
\n\tYou will live long on this earth. Long life is syn\u00adony\u00admous with being bles\u00adsed. The ori\u00adgi\u00adnal text says: \u00abThen you will live long in the land the Lord your God will give you\u00bb (Ex 20:12 NL<\/span>). God is refer\u00adring to the land of Cana\u00adan pro\u00admi\u00adsed to Isra\u00adel. He who hono\u00adurs his father and mother will live in the pro\u00admi\u00adses of God.<\/p>\n
\nHonour father and mother
\nA first important obser\u00adva\u00adti\u00adon is that it is not \u00abhonour your par\u00adents\u00bb but \u00abhonour your father and mother\u00bb. We can\u00adnot honour our par\u00adents in a blan\u00adket way. The\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre, it is important that we look at our rela\u00adti\u00adonship with our father and mother individually.
\nThe word honour, in its ori\u00adgi\u00adnal Hebrew sen\u00adse, means to give someone their weight. It is clear that this looks dif\u00adfe\u00adrent in every pha\u00adse of life. But it is always about respec\u00adting, hono\u00adu\u00adring and streng\u00adthening the posi\u00adti\u00adon of father and mother. For child\u00adren, this means being obe\u00addient: \u00abYou child\u00adren, obey your par\u00adents! This is the way the Lord wants you to be; this is how it is good\u00bb (Ephe\u00adsi\u00adans 6:1 NG\u00dc<\/span>). This is whe\u00adre it starts. It is of high importance that child\u00adren learn to lis\u00adten to their par\u00adents and \u2013 wit\u00adhout con\u00adstant con\u00adtra\u00addic\u00adtion \u2013 to obey. Father and mother are chal\u00adlen\u00adged to train this with their kids, and not only when the child\u00adren under\u00adstand the mea\u00adning behind every ins\u00adtruc\u00adtion. In turn, par\u00adents also have a task: \u00abAnd you fathers, con\u00adduct your\u00adsel\u00adves toward your child\u00adren in such a way that they have no reason to rebel against you; bring them up with due cor\u00adrec\u00adtion and admo\u00adni\u00adti\u00adon, as the Lord does\u00bb (Ephe\u00adsi\u00adans 6:4).
\nThe fifth com\u00admandment is par\u00adti\u00adcu\u00adlar\u00adly chal\u00adlen\u00adging for teen\u00adagers \u2013 it is the age when you get the impres\u00adsi\u00adon that your par\u00adents are quite dif\u00adfi\u00adcult. Slow\u00adly but sure\u00adly, one also rea\u00adli\u00adses their weak\u00adne\u00ads\u00adses. In the cir\u00adcle of col\u00adle\u00adagues, one is often in dan\u00adger of tal\u00adking nega\u00adtively about one\u2019s par\u00adents. In the Bible the\u00adre is an inte\u00adres\u00adt\u00ading sto\u00adry about the drun\u00adken Noah lying naked in his tent (Gene\u00adsis 9:21ff). His three sons reac\u00adted dif\u00adfer\u00adent\u00adly: Cana\u00adan sees this naked\u00adness and flaunts it. Shem and Japheth, on the other hand, deli\u00adbera\u00adte\u00adly look away and cover his weak\u00adne\u00adss. Cana\u00adan was sub\u00adse\u00adquent\u00adly cur\u00adsed and the other two bles\u00adsed. Hono\u00adu\u00adring father and mother also means trea\u00adting their naked\u00adnes\u00adses and weak\u00adne\u00ads\u00adses discreetly.
\nAt the latest in their teenage years, child\u00adren should be brought up accor\u00adding to the father con\u00adcept, which is descri\u00adbed by the words free\u00addom, con\u00adsis\u00adten\u00adcy and rela\u00adti\u00adonship. \u00abTeach your child to choo\u00adse the right path, and when he is older he will stay on that path\u00bb (Pro\u00adverbs 22:6 NL<\/span>). Child\u00adren must learn to deci\u00adde on their own respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty and to choo\u00adse the right path.
\nThe fifth com\u00admandment also appli\u00ades to adult child\u00adren: \u00abRespect your father and mother, you owe them your life! Lis\u00adten to them even when they have grown old\u00bb (Pro\u00adverbs 23:22 GN<\/span>). Howe\u00adver, this exhorta\u00adti\u00adon from Solo\u00admon is not a free pass for par\u00adents to talk into their adult children\u2019s dai\u00adly lives wit\u00adhout being asked, but rather a call to adult child\u00adren to seek the advice of their father and mother. Child\u00adren should share respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty for their age\u00ading parents.
\nFather and mother abandoned
\nAn ele\u00admen\u00adta\u00adry con\u00addi\u00adti\u00adon for adult child\u00adren to honour their father and mother is that they have left their father and mother (Gene\u00adsis 2:24). This does not only app\u00adly to child\u00adren who mar\u00adry! It is important that all depen\u00adden\u00adci\u00ades are dis\u00adsol\u00adved and hearts are tur\u00adned towards each other in full free\u00addom (Malachi 3:24). The cut\u00adting of the umbi\u00adli\u00adcal cord is vital and a lifel\u00adong pro\u00adcess. How many mothers, hundreds of miles away, direct their adult child\u00adren through the tele\u00adpho\u00adne cord as through an umbi\u00adli\u00adcal cord! Dear par\u00adents of adult child\u00adren, let them go!
\nEven Mary, the mother of Jesus, had trou\u00adble with this. The\u00adre are at least two epi\u00adso\u00addes in which Jesus rebu\u00adkes his mother rather gruf\u00adfly (Luke 8:19\u201321; John 2:1ff). At the wed\u00adding of Cana, Mary points out to Jesus that they have run out of wine. Jesus then says, \u00abWhat have I to do with you, woman?\u00bb (John 2:4 Elb). Cle\u00adar\u00adly Mary crossed a line. Her reac\u00adtion pro\u00adves that she quick\u00adly unders\u00adtood. For she says to the ser\u00advants, \u00abDo wha\u00adte\u00adver he com\u00admands you\u00bb (5 NL<\/span>). The pro\u00adof that Jesus hono\u00adurs his mother even after aban\u00addo\u00adning her is demons\u00adtra\u00adted on the cross. His pain is unbe\u00adara\u00adble, yet he cares for his mother. He said to John, \u00ab \u00abLook, this is your mother now!\u00bb Then the disci\u00adple took Jesus\u00bb mother to hims\u00adelf and cared for her from then on\u00bb (John 19:27 NG\u00dc<\/span>). This is per\u00adhaps the most out\u00adstan\u00adding exam\u00adp\u00adle of hono\u00adu\u00adring parents.
\nThe\u00adre is a lot of good and bles\u00adsing in every fami\u00adly. Lea\u00adving father and mother means than\u00adking both of them indi\u00advi\u00addu\u00adal\u00adly. Tho\u00adse who have given thanks for what they have recei\u00adved enter free\u00addom. Ing\u00adra\u00adti\u00adtu\u00adde lea\u00adves behind unhe\u00adalt\u00adhy depen\u00adden\u00adci\u00ades and attach\u00adments (Romans 1:21), which results in bon\u00adda\u00adge. It is very important that child\u00adren thank their father and mother. This should be expres\u00adsed in a basic atti\u00adtu\u00adde that always finds words, becau\u00adse thanks wit\u00adhout words do not arri\u00adve. \u00abFor the past thanks, for the coming yes\u00bb, said Dag Hammar\u00adskj\u00f6ld. Gra\u00adti\u00adtu\u00adde is the grea\u00adtest force in life. Gra\u00adteful and expec\u00adtant peo\u00adp\u00adle sta\u00adtis\u00adti\u00adcal\u00adly live 7.5 years lon\u00adger (accor\u00adding to neu\u00adro\u00adpsy\u00adcho\u00adlo\u00adgist and brain rese\u00adar\u00adcher Andr\u00e9 Ale\u00admann). The\u00adre we have it again, the long life pro\u00admi\u00adsed in the fifth com\u00admandment! Gra\u00adti\u00adtu\u00adde is not the con\u00adse\u00adquence of hap\u00adpi\u00adness, but the cau\u00adse of happiness.
\nBut in every fami\u00adly the\u00adre are also nega\u00adti\u00adve imprints. Imper\u00adfect sin\u00adful par\u00adents make mista\u00adkes. The\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre, it is ine\u00advi\u00adta\u00adble that in every parent-child rela\u00adti\u00adonship, in addi\u00adti\u00adon to much good, the\u00adre is also \u2013 often uncon\u00adscious\u00adly \u2013 much fail\u00adure. We can never do full jus\u00adti\u00adce to our child\u00adren. The fifth com\u00admandment includes hono\u00adu\u00adring fathers and mothers who have fai\u00adled. For this to even be con\u00adside\u00adred, someone must lea\u00adve their father and mother. Wit\u00adhout seve\u00adring the nega\u00adti\u00adve imprints and depen\u00adden\u00adci\u00ades, the fur\u00adther life of the child\u00adren remains bur\u00adden\u00aded. The\u00adre is a silent and a loud vari\u00adant: Eit\u00adher I will con\u00adstant\u00adly reproach father and mother for their mista\u00adkes and hold them respon\u00adsi\u00adble for my fate, or I am not awa\u00adre of this depen\u00adden\u00adcy and make the same mista\u00adkes towards my child\u00adren becau\u00adse I am trap\u00adped in the father way.
\nThe good news is that even if you expe\u00adri\u00aden\u00adced a lot of stressful things in child\u00adhood, you can beco\u00adme free from all nega\u00adti\u00adve attach\u00adments. The key lies in the \u00abblood that Jesus Christ shed: \u00abYou know that you were ran\u00adso\u00admed from the meanin\u00adg\u00adless and pur\u00adpo\u00adse\u00adl\u00adess life your ances\u00adtors led, and you know what the pri\u00adce was for this ran\u00adsom: not some\u00adthing peri\u00ads\u00adha\u00adble like sil\u00adver or gold, but the pre\u00adcious blood of a sacri\u00adfi\u00adci\u00adal lamb, wit\u00adhout the sligh\u00adtest ble\u00admish or flaw \u2013 the blood of Christ\u00bb (1 Peter 1:18f NCC<\/span>). Jesus decla\u00adres that his blood is shed \u00abto for\u00adgi\u00adve the sins of many peo\u00adp\u00adle\u00bb (Matthew 26:28b NL<\/span>). The path to free\u00addom from the nega\u00adti\u00adve imprints of par\u00adents leads through for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness and recon\u00adci\u00adlia\u00adti\u00adon. Such a pro\u00adcess can be very pain\u00adful, depen\u00adding on what hap\u00adpen\u00aded. This path is made much easier when father and mother take the initia\u00adti\u00adve, ack\u00adnow\u00adledge their omis\u00adsi\u00adons and exag\u00adge\u00adra\u00adti\u00adons, hum\u00adble them\u00adsel\u00adves and ask for for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness. It is more chal\u00adlen\u00adging when such recon\u00adci\u00adli\u00ada\u00adto\u00adry talks with father and mother are not pos\u00adsi\u00adble. But even the\u00adre, it is cru\u00adcial for a child to for\u00adgi\u00adve and release them. In this case it is a pro\u00adcess that takes place alo\u00adne or bet\u00adter with a pas\u00adtor at the cross of Jesus. The\u00adre, one accu\u00adses the father and mother indi\u00advi\u00addu\u00adal\u00adly and con\u00adcre\u00adte\u00adly, speaks for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness to them and releases them into their free\u00addom. When the child has rea\u00adched a cer\u00adtain matu\u00adri\u00adty, he or she will also reco\u00adg\u00adni\u00adse his or her own share of guilt and also ask for forgiveness.
\nEspe\u00adci\u00adal\u00adly peo\u00adp\u00adle who had a dif\u00adfi\u00adcult child\u00adhood need to know: \u00abIf even my father and mother aban\u00addon me, yet the Lord will take me in\u00bb (Psalm 27:10 NL<\/span>). Tho\u00adse who have dis\u00adco\u00adver\u00aded the open arms of the hea\u00adven\u00adly Father can more easi\u00adly deal with the chal\u00adlenges of their own family.
\nLea\u00adving father and mother brings about free\u00addom and opens up the pos\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty for us to live a reflec\u00adted life for the glo\u00adry of God! But this path of thanks\u00adgi\u00adving and for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness or recon\u00adci\u00adlia\u00adti\u00adon has to be wal\u00adked concretely.
\nMutu\u00adal caring
\nA fami\u00adly is always about mutu\u00adal respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty. Paul chal\u00adlenges the child\u00adren to care for their ances\u00adtors: \u00abBut if a widow has child\u00adren or grand\u00adchild\u00adren, they are first respon\u00adsi\u00adble for her. They should show their rever\u00adence for God by ful\u00adfil\u00adling their fami\u00adly duties and show\u00ading gra\u00adti\u00adtu\u00adde to their mother and grand\u00admo\u00adther for all they have recei\u00adved from her, for this plea\u00adses God\u00bb (1 Timo\u00adthy 5:4 NG\u00dc<\/span>). Even in times of social insu\u00adrance, one should take respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty for each other within the fami\u00adly. The social trend is rather to take care of the par\u00adents or grand\u00adpar\u00adents. But the Bible speaks of \u00abcaring\u00bb. When adult child\u00adren care for their par\u00adents out of free\u00addom, and not out of a sen\u00adse of duty or a guil\u00adty con\u00adsci\u00adence, and in this way value them, they honour their father or mother.
\nBut Paul also appeals to father and mother: \u00abFor if anyo\u00adne does not care for his rela\u00adti\u00adves, espe\u00adci\u00adal\u00adly tho\u00adse who live under the same roof with him, he denies the faith and is worse than someone who does not belie\u00adve in Christ\u00bb (1Timothy 5:8 NG\u00dc<\/span>). The respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty of par\u00adents for their child\u00adren lasts not only for the first 20 years of life, but for as long as neces\u00adsa\u00adry. Some\u00adti\u00admes par\u00adents say, \u00abNow I\u2019ve been cram\u00adping all my life and now I\u2019m just enjoy\u00ading it for once. Now I\u2019m sit\u00adting in the gar\u00adden of my 7\u2011room sin\u00adgle-fami\u00adly house, pul\u00adling out a few weeds and light\u00ading the bar\u00adbe\u00adcue!\u00bb But the Bible says, \u00abYou have a social respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty to the youn\u00adger gene\u00adra\u00adti\u00adons.\u00bb The finan\u00adcial bles\u00adsing you have expe\u00adri\u00aden\u00adced should also beco\u00adme a bles\u00adsing to your child\u00adren. I want to encou\u00adra\u00adge you to also use what God has ent\u00adrus\u00adted to you in terms of finan\u00adcial bles\u00adsings to ful\u00adfil your social respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty towards your child\u00adren. It is the bibli\u00adcal prin\u00adci\u00adple of caring for one another.
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\nThe goal in the tog\u00ade\u00adther\u00adness of gene\u00adra\u00adti\u00adons is not inde\u00adpen\u00addence, but hearts tur\u00adned to each other in free\u00addom! \u00abHe will turn the hearts of the fathers to their child\u00adren and the hearts of the child\u00adren to their fathers, so that at my coming I will not have to des\u00adtroy the land\u00bb (Malachi 3:24 NL<\/span>). Tur\u00adned hearts are a bles\u00adsing for the fami\u00adly and, moreo\u00adver, a sus\u00adtai\u00adning force for the who\u00adle country!
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\nPos\u00adsi\u00adble ques\u00adti\u00adons for the small groups
\nRead the Bible text: Ephe\u00adsi\u00adans 6:1\u20134<\/p>\n
\n\tWhat does it mean for you in the cur\u00adrent situa\u00adti\u00adon to honour father and mother?
\n\tWhat does mutu\u00adal care or respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty bet\u00adween gene\u00adra\u00adti\u00adons mean? What is your chall\u00adenge upwards and downwards?
\n\tWhe\u00adre are you in the pro\u00adcess of lea\u00adving your father and mother? To what ext\u00adent are your hearts alre\u00ada\u00addy tur\u00adned towards each other in freedom?<\/p>\n