God not only has a Father\u2019s heart, but also a Mother\u2019s heart. In order to beco\u00adme com\u00adple\u00adte\u00adly at home with Him, we need a gre\u00adat clo\u00adsen\u00adess to both hearts. Our rela\u00adti\u00adonship with our bio\u00adlo\u00adgi\u00adcal mother has a gre\u00adat influence on our clo\u00adsen\u00adess to the mother heart of God. Mother wounds suf\u00adfe\u00adr\u00aded must the\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre be cared for and need healing.<\/p>\n
\tRejec\u00adting mother: From the moment of con\u00adcep\u00adti\u00adon, the new life recei\u00adves impul\u00adses from the mother and the envi\u00adron\u00adment. The\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre, mother wounds can go back a long way, becau\u00adse the mother has a gre\u00adat respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty for the well-being and safe\u00adty of the child during pregnan\u00adcy. The child alre\u00ada\u00addy then recei\u00adves the atti\u00adtu\u00adde and atti\u00adtu\u00adde of the mother and the envi\u00adron\u00adment. The\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre, the child can be hurt if the mother rejects her role as a mother \u2013 be it becau\u00adse of an unwan\u00adted pregnan\u00adcy or becau\u00adse of sexu\u00adal abu\u00adse. The sibling con\u00adstel\u00adla\u00adti\u00adon or the num\u00adber of child\u00adren alre\u00ada\u00addy pre\u00adsent can also have an influence. May\u00adbe as a mother you fall into one of the\u00adse cate\u00adgo\u00adries. Then you have the oppor\u00adtu\u00adni\u00adty to ask your child\u00adren for for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness. In Jesus the\u00adre is for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness so that you don\u2019t have to live under con\u00adstant guilt or self-accu\u00adsa\u00adti\u00adon or self-pity. \tUncon\u00adscious\u00adly, we bring our mother rela\u00adti\u00adonship into the God rela\u00adti\u00adonship. The\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre, wounds suf\u00adfe\u00adr\u00aded can lead to a distanced rela\u00adti\u00adonship with God, they pre\u00advent us from beco\u00adming at home with God. Heal\u00ading the mother wounds \tIden\u00adti\u00adfy the cau\u00adse of your wound and the per\u00adson who cau\u00adsed the mira\u00adcles. We don\u2019t get any\u00adwhe\u00adre if we take the mother\u2019s side and say, \u00abMy mother also brings her sto\u00adry. She made the best of it.\u00bb We must have know\u00adledge and reve\u00adla\u00adti\u00adon befo\u00adre we can expe\u00adri\u00adence healing. \tTell each other child\u00adhood memo\u00adries rela\u00adted to your mother! God not only has a Father\u2019s heart, but also a Mother\u2019s heart. To beco\u00adme com\u00adple\u00adte\u00adly at home with him, we need a gre\u00adat clo\u00adsen\u00adess to both hearts. Our rela\u00adti\u00adonship with our bio\u00adlo\u00adgi\u00adcal mother has a gre\u00adat influence on our clo\u00adsen\u00adess to the mother heart of God. Mother wounds suf\u00adfe\u00adr\u00aded must the\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre be cared for and need heal\u00ading. Emper\u00ador Fre\u00adde\u00adrick II<\/span> made attempts\u2026<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","wpfc_preacher":[23],"wpfc_sermon_series":[53],"wpfc_sermon_topics":[],"wpfc_bible_book":[],"wpfc_service_type":[12],"class_list":{"0":"wpfc_preacher-matthias-altwegg","1":"wpfc_sermon_series-willkommen-daheim","2":"wpfc-sermon-single","3":"post-2212","4":"wpfc_sermon","5":"type-wpfc_sermon","6":"status-publish","7":"hentry","10":"wpfc_service_type-gottesdienst"},"acf":[],"sermons_blog_filters_topics":"\t\t\t\t
\nEmper\u00ador Fre\u00adde\u00adrick II<\/span> con\u00adduc\u00adted expe\u00adri\u00adments with child\u00adren. He wan\u00adted to find out the ori\u00adgi\u00adnal lan\u00adguage com\u00admon to all humans. He belie\u00adved that he would be able to dis\u00adco\u00adver it if he obser\u00adved in which lan\u00adguage child\u00adren began to speak to whom no one had spo\u00adken befo\u00adre. He gues\u00adsed Hebrew. A chro\u00adnic\u00adle from 1268 reports: \u00abAnd the\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre he com\u00adman\u00added the nur\u00adses and nur\u00adse\u00admaids to give the child\u00adren milk, bathe them and wash them, but in no way to make nice with them or speak to them.\u00bb The attempt went tho\u00adrough\u00adly wrong, for all the child\u00adren died. Wit\u00adhout the cosy words of their wet-nur\u00adses and nur\u00adses, they were unable to live.
\nDo you know what the ori\u00adgi\u00adnal lan\u00adguage of all child\u00adren is? It is \u2026 the mother ton\u00adgue. Mother depri\u00adva\u00adti\u00adon in infan\u00adcy cau\u00adses dama\u00adge. No one influen\u00adces our iden\u00adti\u00adty more than the mother. She shapes not only our lan\u00adguage, but also our world\u00adview, our world view, our basic sen\u00adse of secu\u00adri\u00adty and well-being. Child\u00adren flou\u00adrish when their mother lis\u00adtens to them, accepts them and cares for them. In the ear\u00adliest years, so-cal\u00adled kan\u00adga\u00adroo care, fre\u00adquent skin cont\u00adact, is important for opti\u00admal deve\u00adlo\u00adp\u00adment. It leads to healt\u00adhi\u00ader heart rate and breathing, a bet\u00adter immu\u00adne sys\u00adtem and bet\u00adter weight gain. God has given mothers a respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty that is dif\u00adfe\u00adrent from that of men. In the pro\u00adcess of mothe\u00adring, she has an irre\u00adplaceable role.
\nThe Mother Heart of God
\nIn the novel \u00abThe Shack\u00bb, God the Father is por\u00adtray\u00aded as a caring Afri\u00adcan Ame\u00adri\u00adcan woman who lets hers\u00adelf be cal\u00adled \u00abPapa\u00bb and works in the kit\u00adchen. At first this see\u00admed a bit here\u00adti\u00adcal to me and irri\u00adta\u00adted me. But in the Bible we encoun\u00adter God\u2019s mother\u2019s heart as well as his father\u2019s heart. We see this figu\u00adra\u00adtively in Matthew 23:37, for exam\u00adp\u00adle: \u00abO Jeru\u00adsa\u00adlem, Jeru\u00adsa\u00adlem, you city that mur\u00adders pro\u00adphe\u00adts and stones God\u2019s mes\u00adsen\u00adgers! How often I wan\u00adted to call your child\u00adren tog\u00ade\u00adther, like a hen tuck\u00ading her chicks under her wings, but you would not let me.\u00bb
\nGod crea\u00adted man in his image: \u00abThus God crea\u00adted man in his own image, in the image of God he crea\u00adted them, male and fema\u00adle he crea\u00adted them\u00bb (Gene\u00adsis 1:27). It takes the femi\u00adni\u00adne side to be able to reflect the image of God. All mothe\u00adring comes from the mother heart of God. That is why he says: \u00abI mys\u00adelf will com\u00adfort you as a mother com\u00adforts her child\u00bb (Isai\u00adah 66:13). Or Deut. 32:11 speaks of God as of a mother eagle, flus\u00adhing out her young, spre\u00ada\u00adding her wings and then car\u00adry\u00ading them on her wings. It was in God\u2019s image that women and mothers were crea\u00adted. The\u00adr\u00ade\u00adfo\u00adre, it is not at all \u00abhere\u00adti\u00adcal\u00bb to speak of the mother heart of God.
\nIt takes both men and women to reflect God\u2019s image. Tog\u00ade\u00adther they were given the man\u00adda\u00adte to be fruitful, to mul\u00adti\u00adply and to be invol\u00adved in the pro\u00adcess with dif\u00adfe\u00adrent roles. Nur\u00adtu\u00adring, rai\u00adsing and caring is a gift and respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty that women can do bet\u00adter. Men can initia\u00adte, bring some\u00adthing into being, but they can\u00adnot mother very effectively.
\nSuf\u00adfer mother wounds
\nOur expe\u00adri\u00aden\u00adces and emo\u00adtio\u00adnal histo\u00adry with our own mother have a direct influence on our rela\u00adti\u00adonship with God. Dis\u00adtur\u00adban\u00adces in the rela\u00adti\u00adonship with the mother or other fema\u00adle attach\u00adment figu\u00adres rea\u00addi\u00adly cau\u00adse dis\u00adtur\u00adban\u00adces in the rela\u00adti\u00adonship with God.
\nMother wounds can occur when we have expe\u00adri\u00aden\u00adced inju\u00adries in the area of mate\u00adr\u00adnal care. They are par\u00adti\u00adcu\u00adlar\u00adly cau\u00adsed by phy\u00adsi\u00adcal or emo\u00adtio\u00adnal absence of the mother in the ear\u00adly for\u00adma\u00adti\u00adve years.
\nWe now look at five dif\u00adfe\u00adrent types of hur\u00adting mothers:<\/p>\n
\n\tNee\u00addy mother: It hap\u00adpens that an emo\u00adtio\u00adnal\u00adly or phy\u00adsi\u00adcal\u00adly absent father cau\u00adses the mother to want to satis\u00adfy her emo\u00adtio\u00adnal needs through her child\u00adren. This can be cau\u00adsed, for exam\u00adp\u00adle, by a divorce or the death of the father. Any of the\u00adse reasons can cau\u00adse the mother to place too gre\u00adat a bur\u00adden on the child\u00adren, espe\u00adci\u00adal\u00adly the eldest child. For exam\u00adp\u00adle, she tells the eldest son that he must now be the man of the house, or the eldest daugh\u00adter that they must now fill the gap. Child\u00adren must be allo\u00adwed to be children.
\n\tGap-fil\u00adling mother: When a mother tri\u00ades to fill both the mother and father roles, wounds can occur. A son can thus be femi\u00adni\u00adsed or a daugh\u00adter negle\u00adc\u00adted in her deve\u00adlo\u00adp\u00adment into a woman. Sin\u00adgle women should be the best mother they can be and invol\u00adve men to speak into the lives of the child\u00adren. If you are in this situa\u00adti\u00adon, you should ask God to show you men who can speak into the lives of your child\u00adren. God hims\u00adelf has pro\u00admi\u00adsed that he is a God who cares for orphans and widows! Of cour\u00adse, such men can\u00adnot replace a father, but they can affirm, encou\u00adra\u00adge and give gui\u00addance to the child\u00adren from a male perspective.
\n\tOppres\u00adsi\u00adve mother: Usual\u00adly such a mother is not awa\u00adre that she is over\u00adpro\u00adtec\u00adting her child\u00adren. She is a mother who holds on and wants to main\u00adtain con\u00adtrol. As a result, she will try to cling to the child\u00adren even when it is time to let them go. It is espe\u00adci\u00adal\u00adly important for an over\u00adpro\u00adtec\u00adti\u00adve mother to know that sons bet\u00adween the ages of 10 and 16 usual\u00adly begin to reject fema\u00adle input. Some\u00adti\u00admes they even get angry when their mother tri\u00ades too hard to tell them what to do. The ide\u00adal situa\u00adti\u00adon is when the father takes over at this point and main\u00adly gives the input during the teenage years. It takes a man to teach a son man\u00adhood. A mother can rai\u00adse, love; but at a cer\u00adtain time she must let him go, pray who\u00adle\u00adhe\u00adar\u00adted\u00adly for in and have exem\u00adpla\u00adry men to speak into his life and gui\u00adde him through the deve\u00adlo\u00adp\u00admen\u00adtal process.
\n\tNegle\u00adctful and abu\u00adsi\u00adve mother: This mother is not affir\u00adming and not encou\u00adra\u00adging, but rather distant. And when she says some\u00adthing, it is usual\u00adly impa\u00adti\u00adent, cri\u00adti\u00adcal, shaming and dis\u00adre\u00adspectful. She hard\u00adly ever says a kind word. One can assu\u00adme that they them\u00adsel\u00adves have expe\u00adri\u00aden\u00adced abu\u00adse and hurt in their past. That in no way excu\u00adses the fact that this beha\u00adviour has cau\u00adsed wounds in you. You can\u00adnot heal your mother, but you can ensu\u00adre that you recei\u00adve heal\u00ading. Such negle\u00adct hin\u00adders the deve\u00adlo\u00adp\u00adment of the basic sen\u00adse of well-being, safe\u00adty and secu\u00adri\u00adty, espe\u00adci\u00adal\u00adly if it hap\u00adpen\u00aded in the ear\u00adly for\u00adma\u00adti\u00adve years.<\/p>\n
\nPos\u00adsi\u00adble signs of mother wounds are:<\/p>\n
\n\tDue to the lack of a basic fee\u00adling of secu\u00adri\u00adty, we lack self-con\u00adfi\u00addence. We are inse\u00adcu\u00adre and have dif\u00adfi\u00adcul\u00adties fin\u00adding our place in life.
\n\tWe are sur\u00adroun\u00added by a cer\u00adtain dark\u00adness and aban\u00addon\u00adment. Life is cha\u00adrac\u00adte\u00adri\u00adsed by loneli\u00adne\u00adss and emo\u00adtio\u00adnal pain.
\n\tOur own mother rela\u00adti\u00adonship influen\u00adces all rela\u00adti\u00adonships with women in our lives.<\/p>\n
\nGod is a loving, caring Father \u2013 and He is the best Mother. We are his child\u00adren. Wit\u00adhout a clo\u00adse rela\u00adti\u00adonship with God as the true Father and Mother, we can\u00adnot beco\u00adme a who\u00adle per\u00adson. A cen\u00adtral state\u00adment on this is: \u00abIf even father and mother for\u00adsa\u00adke me, yet the Lord will recei\u00adve me\u00bb (Psalm 27:10). Through com\u00admu\u00adni\u00adon with the hea\u00adven\u00adly Father we are pla\u00adced in a pri\u00advi\u00adle\u00adged posi\u00adti\u00adon whe\u00adre heal\u00ading can beco\u00adme con\u00adcre\u00adte. It is never too late to live a won\u00adderful life. The good news is: heal\u00ading is possible!
\nWe can expe\u00adri\u00adence heal\u00ading from our mother wounds when we come to this God. Jesus died on the cross so that we can recei\u00adve heal\u00ading. It is all finis\u00adhed (John 19:30; Isai\u00adah 53:5). In a pro\u00adphe\u00adtic sen\u00adtence it is said about Jesus: \u00abThe Spi\u00adrit of the Lord God rests on me, becau\u00adse the Lord has anoin\u00adted me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to heal the bro\u00adken\u00adhe\u00adar\u00adted and to pro\u00adcla\u00adim that the cap\u00adti\u00adves will be set free and the bound will be set free\u00bb (Isai\u00adah 61:1).
\nHow can we proceed?<\/p>\n
\n\tDeci\u00adde to for\u00adgi\u00adve. For\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness is first a decis\u00adi\u00adon, not a fee\u00adling. Becau\u00adse no human being can for\u00adgi\u00adve sins \u2013 only God can do this, we must sepa\u00adra\u00adte the sin from the per\u00adson. Howe\u00adver, God has given us the respon\u00adsi\u00adbi\u00adli\u00adty to for\u00adgi\u00adve others. This does not mean that we excu\u00adse or belitt\u00adle sin. When you for\u00adgi\u00adve a per\u00adson, you are put\u00adting God first in your life becau\u00adse He said, \u00abIf you for\u00adgi\u00adve tho\u00adse who have done evil to you, your hea\u00adven\u00adly Father will also for\u00adgi\u00adve you\u00bb (Matthew 6:14).
\n\tDetach yours\u00adelf from any bon\u00adda\u00adge cau\u00adsed by bit\u00adter\u00adness and unf\u00ador\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness in your life. We bind peo\u00adp\u00adle by kee\u00adping them in our debt. As long as you do not for\u00adgi\u00adve, other peo\u00adp\u00adle own a pie\u00adce of land in your heart.
\n\tAsk Jesus for for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness for your own guilt. Becau\u00adse of the wounds we expe\u00adri\u00adence, we also beco\u00adme per\u00adpe\u00adtra\u00adtors. We may bring this guilt to Jesus and expe\u00adri\u00adence forgiveness.
\n\tRecei\u00adve God\u2019s bles\u00adsing, let the hea\u00adven\u00adly Father res\u00adto\u00adre in your life what has been rob\u00adbed from you.<\/p>\n
\nIn the cour\u00adse of gro\u00adwing up, it is neces\u00adsa\u00adry to lea\u00adve father and mother (Gene\u00adsis 2:24). The pro\u00adces\u00adses just descri\u00adbed are a neces\u00adsa\u00adry must on this path. Howe\u00adver, the goal is not aban\u00addon\u00adment, accu\u00adsa\u00adti\u00adon and distance, but hearts tur\u00adned towards each other! The only one of the Ten Words that is lin\u00adked to a pro\u00admi\u00adse is: \u00abHonour your father and your mother. Then you will live long in the land that the Lord your God will give you\u00bb (Ex 20:12). The goal is to honour father and mother! But hono\u00adu\u00adring does not mean appro\u00adving what has hap\u00adpen\u00aded. You can only honour your father and mother if you have let go and found a healt\u00adhy rela\u00adti\u00adonship through for\u00adgi\u00adve\u00adness. When this has hap\u00adpen\u00aded, you will find yours\u00adelf very clo\u00adse to the heart of God. That is what life is all about. It is the very best place the\u00adre is!
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\nPos\u00adsi\u00adble ques\u00adti\u00adons for the small groups
\nRead the Bible text: Isai\u00adah 66:13<\/p>\n
\n\tWhich of the five ways were you most likely to be hurt by your mother?
\n\tWhat effects of mother wounds are you awa\u00adre of? Examples?
\n\tWhich spe\u00adci\u00ades is most likely to beco\u00adme a trap for you as a mother? What do you do about it?
\n\tWhat is the dif\u00adfe\u00adrence bet\u00adween for\u00adgi\u00adving a per\u00adson and for\u00adgi\u00adving sin? Why do we often find it so dif\u00adfi\u00adcult to for\u00adgi\u00adve people?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"